List of things I ought to do so they don't get added on to my Bucket List.

There are a lot of things I've been wanting to do over the years.. I've had a Bucket list before but I lost it and I'm sure I never did even one thing on the list.

This is my digitized version. I am hoping that this time, I get to do the stuff on the list with a little help and eventually the list grows.

• Throw a house party for all my best pals.
• Dye a couple of my hair strands in pink or red. 
• Play football with boys.
• Catch a movie alone and absolutely enjoy the solitude.
• Wear clothes I don't usually wear- Denim shorts and a closed halter.
• Play hop scotch.
• Dance in a room full of people without a care that I have two left feet.
• Go for a long drive with a bunch of good pals.
• Buy lingerie in all my favorite colors. I'm an unrepentant lingerie lover.
• Sleep under the stars.
• Lie on snow and make snow angels. Age no bar.
• Go to Rome and drink afternoon tea.
• Stay in an archaic bed room and sleep on an old four poster bed with white sheets.
• Wear a bikini and go for a swim in a closed enclave one evening.
• Do the waltz with a significant other.
• Ride a horse or at least pat down one.
• Pay for food in an old age home/orphanage.
• Buy a bright yellow hand bag.
• Ask an unattached young French man if he can French kiss.
• Have a charcoal grill and make yummy chicken.
• Travel!!
• Write a love letter.
• Get a kitten. Said kitten sleeps near my bed.
• Significant other gifts me blood red roses. 
• Woman up and get a Brazilian wax. Ouch.
• Publish my novel.

To be continued........

Wacky things to do when you are bored

When you are not in the mood to watch television, read, listen to music or embark on any hobby you like but are suffering from acute boredom, this list will help you :p

! Wear socks and skate when you are at home. Most offices have sparkly flooring so shoes will do.

!  Play games online with a ten year old and when he loses, tell him he lost to a seven year old girl! :D

! Stare at people for a long time and see who breaks eye contact first. ( Me and the youngest bro always have staring matches.)

! Jump on your bed. When was the last time you did that?

! Day dream. I'm married to a vampire knight from the 12th century , we live in a Scottish castle and the sex is of course amazing! :p

! Look around your room, think it deserves to be cleaner? Think of ways it could be worse and then commend yourself for having a clean room. 

! Find different ways of shaking your bum in front of your mirror. I can draw an infinity symbol. Can you?? :D

! Bug other people. I sweetly ask permission with a puppy face and then bug them relentlessly.

! Feed the crows near your home regularly. Trust me, they recognize you after a while! It effectively stops accidental swooping, pecking or the pooping.

! Take a shower all the while singing in a loud voice. 

! Play dress up. Yes. More power to you if you are a male.

! Ask your parents where you were when they got married, this always gets ridiculous looks if you are in your twenties.

Now I'm off to try all of the above. Any things you'd like to add?

Can love make you happy?

The person who can make you happy is... You. Happiness comes from within, from who you are, from what you do. Sometimes, we make the mistake of thinking some one else can make us happy.

Another person, a friend or a partner can only add on or enrich your life experience, good or bad. Expecting some one else to make your life happy is like expecting some one else to do your work. It doesn't work always.

Why do we always think that falling in love or getting hitched will make us happy? No one 'completes you'. If you think your partner can 'complete you', you are in for a major disappointment in life.

Why do we give so much emphasis on another person and not on ourselves? If you cannot make yourself happy, how can anybody else?

Friendships,partnerships, relationships, marriages are all about sharing each others' life experiences. 'Trying to change' the other is when all of the above come crashing down.
People are the happiest when friends or spouses accept them the way they are.

The key is "I am happy being this way and you are happy being who you are. Let's share our lives."

Follies happen when either try to conform the other to their personal rules, family expectations or their society's rules.Acceptance is the key here. If you cannot accept them, then it is better to steer away from that person.

If you are a person who drinks, get a partner who will take you out for shots. If you love dancing, get a partner who will dance away the night with you. If you are a home body, get someone who will stay at home with you. If you love weird sex get a partner who will share your kinky nature. To put it simply, get someone who has a lot in common with you or get someone whose differences, beliefs and outlook you truly accept.

When you get friends or get hitched to suit what your parents or society mandates as good for you, is when you are asking for trouble. If your parents views or society's views match with yours then go for it. Else put your happiness in front of all of them. Losing one's individuality to fit in someone's rule book will never give either peace. Life's too short to live satisfying everyone else but you.

Love can make you happy only when those involved accept the other with all their faults or quirks and not try to change them. Ever. Not now, not in 10 years and not in 50 years either. Love or Marriage won't mellow you down nor will it make you responsible or anything else elders believe. If you always have a free streak, mingle more with friends, or have a flirty nature then nothing can change you nor the other person.

The saying people change is a myth. People can never change who they are. They may become better or worse, but their essence never changes. People do not change into something they never were.

So love yourself and accept that neither will you change nor can you change another person. That is where happiness is.

The Under dog & Me

My definition of the Under-dog is someone who is over-looked, not cared for, under estimated and that person who sits quietly in a corner waiting for someone to talk to. 

I have always been a bit protective of my family and close pals, but some stranger in dire need manages to make my eyes and nose runny. This stems from the thought that, I have myself to pull me through tough situations (I try hard), but what if that person does not have that strength? What if he/she thinks no one cares or life is just too difficult?

No. I'm not a saint. I don't work selflessly. But I want to make this world a bit happier, at the least try to help people if I can. Sometimes, all a person needs is just some one to say, "You are not alone. I'm there." For some, these are just words, for some even words mean a lot. 

To be honest, I don't remember anyone telling me those words, except that person in the mirror ( If the reader has, do remind me to thank you and then scold me for being an ungrateful wretch) . Most of the times, I think it's because I hate showing my vulnerability. I am heavily armored. However, I believe, just because the world gives you a short hand, doesn't meant you have to. I rationalize that there are people like me, so I say, " I'm there, don't worry." 

I mean it too. The only time I abscond is when I think my good intentions are taken advantage of, or if the other person thinks my attentions are a given or if their sadness should have me fawn over them. Oh, no you don't. I bend, but never to play slave to your sad princess. 

It's not about Karma either. Good deeds count.. good thoughts just make you happy. 

I love 'She will be loved' by Maroon5. My favorite lyrics goes like this, "Look for the girl with the broken smile, ask her if she wants to stay a while and she will be loved."

 The irony is that I'm the girl with the broken smile belting out crappy karaoke just to make another person feel better. And no, I'm not complaining. I'm proud. I don't mind clowning about if some one else can laugh through their tears. I just wish more people had the same outlook in life.

I love the under dog because that person needs it more than anyone else. If you can spread a cheer why not? In life, it is not always about getting things in return. Giving might just make you more happier. So if you are an under dog, know that we can go on a tire pissing spree together!! :-D

Who is a 'good' person?

Something which has always puzzled me is that, what do we exactly mean by he/she is a 'good' person?

In my life, I have always made choices which I feel are right for me and I'm sure many of us follow the same ideology.

I'm sure I may have other vices, but I have always been proud of my choices as a non-drinker, non-smoker, non-weeder (Is that even a word?) and unfortunately believe in wedding and then bedding. My motivation is solely the fact that I consider myself a social rebel in this time and age and certainly not to get into someone's good graces.

With other people, I intervene only when I feel it's detrimental to their health. Else, I give them their space. 

But how do these choices have anything to do with being a 'good' person?

Who is a good person? You decide :

A person refrains from the above 'bad habits', but is prejudiced, racist or a terrible blight on humanity and this person's moral values affects another human being, physically or emotionally. Is he/she a good person?

Another liberal person lives life based on his/her choices, helps people in need without bias and the moral values of this person strongly vouch for loyalty, trustworthiness, honesty and kindness. Is he/she a good person?

 Lifestyle choices are not indicators of 'goodness'. A friend who drinks is a bad person only when he/she 'forces' you to do the same. A good friend will back off once you say a firm no. Blaming others for our indecisiveness is only our folly.

I personally believe humanity maketh a good person more than anything else.

I'd chose liberal people with big hearts, any day over prudes with a small mind. I don't let other peoples' prejudices cloud my judgement, I give everyone a fair chance before I make my own, be it a priest or stripper. 

What about you?