Who is a 'good' person?

Something which has always puzzled me is that, what do we exactly mean by he/she is a 'good' person?

In my life, I have always made choices which I feel are right for me and I'm sure many of us follow the same ideology.

I'm sure I may have other vices, but I have always been proud of my choices as a non-drinker, non-smoker, non-weeder (Is that even a word?) and unfortunately believe in wedding and then bedding. My motivation is solely the fact that I consider myself a social rebel in this time and age and certainly not to get into someone's good graces.

With other people, I intervene only when I feel it's detrimental to their health. Else, I give them their space. 

But how do these choices have anything to do with being a 'good' person?

Who is a good person? You decide :

A person refrains from the above 'bad habits', but is prejudiced, racist or a terrible blight on humanity and this person's moral values affects another human being, physically or emotionally. Is he/she a good person?

Another liberal person lives life based on his/her choices, helps people in need without bias and the moral values of this person strongly vouch for loyalty, trustworthiness, honesty and kindness. Is he/she a good person?

 Lifestyle choices are not indicators of 'goodness'. A friend who drinks is a bad person only when he/she 'forces' you to do the same. A good friend will back off once you say a firm no. Blaming others for our indecisiveness is only our folly.

I personally believe humanity maketh a good person more than anything else.

I'd chose liberal people with big hearts, any day over prudes with a small mind. I don't let other peoples' prejudices cloud my judgement, I give everyone a fair chance before I make my own, be it a priest or stripper. 

What about you?

The deconstruction of "Like" in Fb and Life

So you are friendly, you are cheerful and some people know you. Does that make you sociable?

Have you ever come across situations where seemingly uninteresting people seem to be more popular than you are and you're wondering how?

Do you find calling a spade a spade easier than diplomacy?


You're at the right place then. Read on.


After reading books and armed with my own personal experience, I realized that,
 "People like being liked". Furthermore, we really wonder about how much we are liked by people and the reasons.
Some people base this on their looks, some on their personality and some base it on the number of people they call as friends.

Case in point. Some XYZ person posts something monumental on Facebook and it draws a zillion likes. Truth is, only 10 people who truly know the person, would have liked it. The others would have clicked the Like button just because the person is on their friend's list and it would be rude not to like something obviously important to the said person.

So, even when you don't really care about the person , you click the Like button and even more lame, give a comment that clearly shows it's not heart felt.

Why do we do it then? Is it because we don't want to be seen as rude? Or is it because we  don't want to be left out of the herd?

 There are few people I've met who smile and talk to everyone but really don't care much about the person they're waving to. Are they friendly? Or is the person who has two friends and sticks by them through thick and thin, friendly?

Even when we know the answer, why is it that we are hard on people who call a spade a spade? Sure, they lack diplomacy but is it not better than being two-faced or being lied ?

Truth be told, we have an inflated opinion about ourselves. Hence anyone who does not cater to that need of making us feel good, is not liked. The person who compliments you, flatters you and is other wise completely uninteresting on the other hand is seen as more friendly.

I, along with a few others [ Or wait.. is it just me?], fortunately belong to the species of humans that really can't get the art of being sociable.

Sure, I compliment people. But only when I really mean it. I cannot flatter a person even if they deserve it, but if I don't mean it.
I am very friendly with people whom I'm comfortable with or I truly know, the others... eh not much, because that would again be two-faced.

This might make some of us rebels, or the social out casts. But I'm proud that I belong to a dwindling breed of people who live life on their terms and don't bow to the herd mentality.

So, to the dwindling breed, if you are not popular with the herd, don't fret. You won't be able to stand them anyway. Appreciate the people who honestly criticize you, tell you things that really deflates your opinion about yourself or get angry at you. They may not congratulate you later when you succeed, but they are the ones who truly care.

 And finally, click the Like button only if you truly "Like" something. Respect yourself enough to be honest to yourself.



Remember, YOU ROCK!!!

Romantic Comedies for a Friday Evening

It's a recent ritual of mine that I hunt down Rom-Coms or just the Roms and stay glued to the screen. Some are not exactly chick-flicks, I'm sure a few men might watch them, if only to laugh about the delusions of women.

I like the happy endings, the occasional awwwww and the "I don't know whether I'm crying happy tears or sad tears" phenomenon. A major plus is that these Rom-Coms always have good looking men and women.

So, here's the list of movies I like to curl up with after a Friday dinner.


1. Kate and Leopold   


It's a fantasy movie with old school chivalry and absolute romance.

Leopold is a duke who apparently is caught up in the present day scenario and Kate is a career woman who searches for love. She's got a brother who's the perfect foil for these two. The characters are neatly etched and there's never a lull in the narration.
Meg Ryan was the undisputed queen of Romance movies back in the day.I fell in love with Hugh Jackman when I saw this movie, and for a time Leo was my imaginary boyfriend. Oh.. wait, he still is.

The roof top dinner scene

2. Chocolat 

I clicked the rewind just to see the scene when he says "What"

The story of Vianne, a confectioner single mother who comes to a new town with her daughter and sets up a chocolate shop in the otherwise strait-laced town. Roux and his band of gypsies are temporarily staying on the out skirts of the town and when these two meet, there's absolute fireworks!

I loved the town setting per se. It has a quintessential small town feel to it. The story revolves around the people of this town and we get to see their lives too. This one's a chick-flick through and through.

3. 50 First Dates

Nothing beats a first kiss ;-)

This is a wonderful Romantic Comedy that even guys dig. Drew Barrymore was awesome in this movie. Adam Sandler and his hilarious persona make the movie breezy. Half the time I was laughing and the rest of the time  I was like "awwwwww". 

The girl has a health condition which makes her think its one day before her accident, everyday. The next day she forgets everything and re- lives the day again.

The guy who loves her, wins her everyday, anew. Wow. Who does that in real life?? A complete gem, the whole family can enjoy.

4. Someone Like You

A must watch scene coz I was like awwww
and then had tears in my eyes.

 Chick Flick about a woman with a broken heart who finds love where she was not even looking. Hugh Jackman and Ashley Judd play main roles in this movie. A must watch with girl pals, pop corn and pepsi.

5. Friends with Benefits


This movie is an universal Rom-Com because the boys and the girls will like this movie.
It has comedy, sex and romance. A good 'date movie' if you will.
Mila Kunis is a great actress. She has a very chirpy persona and a goofy attitude in this movie that kind of reminded me of myself. Especially the airport luggage scene. Anyhoo, a good movie over all.

She's Hot. He's cute. High-Five!

6. Forgetting Sarah Marshall

The story about a guy who is heart broken and cannot get over his ex. Quite a funny and sweet movie. A huge favorite with the guys.

A sweet guy in real life too I heard..

The regular ones like 27 dresses, A walk to remember and others are done to death. These are a few treasures. Might add more for other write-ups. Enjoy Friday evenings :)