The deconstruction of "Like" in Fb and Life

So you are friendly, you are cheerful and some people know you. Does that make you sociable?

Have you ever come across situations where seemingly uninteresting people seem to be more popular than you are and you're wondering how?

Do you find calling a spade a spade easier than diplomacy?


You're at the right place then. Read on.


After reading books and armed with my own personal experience, I realized that,
 "People like being liked". Furthermore, we really wonder about how much we are liked by people and the reasons.
Some people base this on their looks, some on their personality and some base it on the number of people they call as friends.

Case in point. Some XYZ person posts something monumental on Facebook and it draws a zillion likes. Truth is, only 10 people who truly know the person, would have liked it. The others would have clicked the Like button just because the person is on their friend's list and it would be rude not to like something obviously important to the said person.

So, even when you don't really care about the person , you click the Like button and even more lame, give a comment that clearly shows it's not heart felt.

Why do we do it then? Is it because we don't want to be seen as rude? Or is it because we  don't want to be left out of the herd?

 There are few people I've met who smile and talk to everyone but really don't care much about the person they're waving to. Are they friendly? Or is the person who has two friends and sticks by them through thick and thin, friendly?

Even when we know the answer, why is it that we are hard on people who call a spade a spade? Sure, they lack diplomacy but is it not better than being two-faced or being lied ?

Truth be told, we have an inflated opinion about ourselves. Hence anyone who does not cater to that need of making us feel good, is not liked. The person who compliments you, flatters you and is other wise completely uninteresting on the other hand is seen as more friendly.

I, along with a few others [ Or wait.. is it just me?], fortunately belong to the species of humans that really can't get the art of being sociable.

Sure, I compliment people. But only when I really mean it. I cannot flatter a person even if they deserve it, but if I don't mean it.
I am very friendly with people whom I'm comfortable with or I truly know, the others... eh not much, because that would again be two-faced.

This might make some of us rebels, or the social out casts. But I'm proud that I belong to a dwindling breed of people who live life on their terms and don't bow to the herd mentality.

So, to the dwindling breed, if you are not popular with the herd, don't fret. You won't be able to stand them anyway. Appreciate the people who honestly criticize you, tell you things that really deflates your opinion about yourself or get angry at you. They may not congratulate you later when you succeed, but they are the ones who truly care.

 And finally, click the Like button only if you truly "Like" something. Respect yourself enough to be honest to yourself.



Remember, YOU ROCK!!!