What women want from Men and what we actually get..

I have always been keen on reading and, researching about the varying facets of human personalities. The most repetitive line I've come across is that, "Women are a puzzle". On the contrary, we're very simple beings with basic expectations from our opposite sex.

Be it our fathers, brothers, friends, spouses or the strangers we come across while travelling, while shopping and the occasional creeps. This is what we expect from you men, and what we actually get.

What women expect from men:

1. Respect:
One of the defining factors of the Homo sapiens existence. Women do not want to be referenced as Madame, we know that's asking for too much in this age.
We would like men to respect our decisions and we want our opinions to be listened to.
Women are programmed to feel uncomfortable when men come too close within our physical space.
We know we are made differently from men and we are the weaker sex in terms of physique.
But, respect us for our minds, our beliefs and our tenacity to over come all odds we face in this male dominated world.

What we get:
We are told by the outside world that it is not our place to have a voice and if we did, we have to face consequences.
Some of us lucky ones may have the freedom,our needs for a better education or work valued, but we cannot truly say that we have escaped the,"you are a girl" line.
No matter what we achieve or are striving to, it is harder for us than you. Appreciate the fact that we have to work twice as hard as men to prove ourselves.
We are made to live in fear that we must return home sooner from school, college or work. Our fathers and brothers try to protect us from other men. Chivalry from stranger will never go unacknowledged.These men do not expect anything, they just help because that's how they are.Women respect such men, who help us in our time of need.

2.We expect financial stability:
Women are always thought of as greedy for money, the truth is we just expect financial security.
We do not seek Prada bags, Jimmy Choos and Audi cars if you cannot afford it, but if you can, we do not see the harm in asking you out on a splurge. ;)
Financial security has been programmed into the women's brain from time immemorial.We have been the nurturers and men providers. Now we are multitasking being both. We just expect men to be good providers. How, expecting a good salary ,so that we do not incur debt; have healthy food;or forced to live frugally; a home in a decent neighborhood and our occasional clothing splurges can seem money-minded is ridiculous. We do not want to live rich. We want to live comfortably.But, I agree comfort factor varies for different women. If we are accustomed to a certain life style and then we find that our expectations are not met, we are of course likely to complain.
Just be sure you pick the right one. ;)

What we get:
Tirades on how much shopping we do, being termed as gold diggers. Even after providing a considerable income, managing the household and putting up with the manly egos, we are ridiculed if we splurge once a while. Women are more cautious to first see that the rent and all bills are paid and ONLY THEN some of us save like misers and some shop like kings.

3. Appreciation/Care:

Respect goes hand in hand with appreciation or care. Say, we've had a bad day at college or work, have a care to ask us what went wrong. We know you cannot resolve all our problems, but we'd be happy that you asked. Once in a while, pitch in when we ask you something from the groceries. When we cook our arses off to please you, and it turns to be a damp squib, laugh it off and remember we've made some good food too. If we are sick, know that we hate it more than you do.

What we get:
Of course, some of the male species are very intelligent they take us out, protect us, buy us things,and make us feel cherished. For all those men, we women salute. The others however, confuse being affectionate as being weak or less manly, hence they try and put us down every chance they get.
For them,I have to say that the men who show that they care,acknowledge the fact that the women in their lives only make them stronger and not weaker.

So I conclude that the women in your life, your sisters;mothers; girlfriends/spouses; colleagues; the nameless women who struggle daily to get a seat on the public transport; the woman peddler on the streets; the woman who hears the cat-calls and comments but walks away like nothing happened and this humble blogger just want:
To be treated with dignity and earn our respect,
To give a little Affection/Love which we so easily share with you,
To provide physical,emotional and financial security.

Now, Is that so difficult??